Election season. I knew it would go like this. I accepted my fate the evening of the election, polls were clear and the economy made it even clearer. But I didn’t expect this heartbreak. It happened before, but the sting is still strong. The disappointment I feel today is true and evident, but I urge readers to not lose hope and to take care of yourself. Follow the guide I curated below as a way to cope with any election disappointment and fear after this past Presidential election. Even if the election went your way, I urge you to take a look at the guide below to see how you can help take care of your female, POC, and LGBTQ+ friends who may be struggling.
The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Deuteronomy 31:8
Step 1: Acknowledge Your Feelings
The night of the election I was speaking to a male friend of mine who explained how he would be okay with either President Trump or Vice President Harris being president. My initial gut reaction- that is not attuned to the holy spirit- wanted me to say “ARE YOU SERIOUS?!” and begin educating this guy on how one could vote for someone with the rap sheet of our President elect. But part of becoming someone who exhibits SERENE STRENGTH has been about practicing Grace the same way the Lord has shown it to me again and again and again.
Instead of indulging middle school Olivia with a debate type of reaction, I heard his point of view and then shared mine. Most of what I said was along the lines of “as a woman, it hurts to know people would vote for someone who thinks of me so poorly. who, if given the chance, will treat me poorly. It hurts to know that a qualified candidate like Harris would be discredited.” It was the first time I had let myself think of it, and to acknowledge the feelings that come with it. Whether it’s in conversation with your friends in a safe space, a journaling session, or in quiet time with God. Make sure to acknowledge whatever it is you feel.
Step 2: Set Small, Attainable Fitness goals
Redirecting your energy by moving your body is one of the best ways to regulate your emotions. It can be easy to ‘rot’ and fall into moments of isolation and hopelessness. There is a time for stillness, but make time to hit the gym. Try out this workout plan for when you don’t have a lot of time to help get a full body workout in today, and whenever you want movement. Also consider going on a walk with a friend, going to a group fitness class, or doing some meditative yoga. Any movement is better than no movement. Don’t be too hard on yourself when you get to this step. Tell yourself you will walk outside for five minutes in between classes or meetings , do a full body stretch before and after lunch. Set small goals and stick to them, you owe it to yourself.
Step 3: Take a Break from the News
Stop scrolling. Turn the TV off. Get off of your phone. You know the information, there is no use in continuously checking and rechecking social accounts. Your brain is looking for a dopamine hit when you scroll, and if you’re feeling election disappointment there is a 90% chance you will instead be met with images of the thing keeping you sad. It is similar to when people go through breakups and you have to randomly see their face on social media. It hurts! The cost outweighs what you would gain if you continued to scroll, so as your third step to coping: get off the internet!
Step 4: Channel Frustration Into Your Workout
For some people, anger is the immediate manifestation of disappointment. Consider channeling your frustration into lifting heavy or running. High impact lifting or conditioning could be the best way to release all of your tension. When my anxiety hits regarding politics I usually feel restless and “twitchy” due to the helplessness I feel about it all. Incorporating a higher intensity workout is very helpful in getting out any excess energy.
Step 5: Stay Connected With Supportive People
My friends are my lifeline in these situations. I am surrounded by good people who care about each other even when we don’t agree on everything. I have curated my social circle to be of people who have at least one thing in common: empathy. Keep empathetic people in your circle and lean on them. Reaching out to supportive friends, family members, or communities can be grounding during times of disappointment. Talking through your feelings with those who understand can provide comfort and help put things in perspective. Being around people who share your values or simply offer a listening ear can remind you that you’re not alone. Whether it’s a group workout, a chat over coffee, or even a text exchange, these moments of connection can make a huge difference in processing your emotions and regaining your footing.
Step 6: Practice Mindful Lifting
Mindful lifting involves focusing intently on each movement, feeling your muscles engage, and staying fully present with each rep. This can be a powerful way to manage stress, as it encourages you to leave outside worries behind and center your mind on the present. This intentional approach to lifting can turn your workout into a meditative practice, helping to relieve tension and re-center your thoughts. By paying close attention to each part of your workout, you may find yourself feeling more grounded and calm, even if just for the duration of the session.
Step 7: Get outdoors for a change of scenery
Spending time outdoors, even for a brief walk or some stretching, can have a soothing effect on your mind. Natural sunlight and fresh air can improve mood and alleviate stress, helping you reset after overwhelming days. Outdoor spaces offer a refreshing change that brings a sense of calm, especially when paired with physical activity. Whether it’s a hike, a walk in the park, or a few minutes sitting outside with a warm drink, getting out can help shift your focus and uplift your spirits.
Step 8: Consider Therapy Or Support Groups
Therapy and support groups provide safe spaces to process complex feelings. Therapists offer tools to cope with disappointment and anxiety in a healthy way, and support groups allow you to connect with others who may be going through similar experiences. Both options can provide invaluable perspective, helping you work through emotions and build resilience. Talking with a mental health professional can help you understand your feelings and give you personalized strategies for managing stress over time.
